Friends Meddling in Relationships

A few years back i knew this couple where friends basically ruined the relationship. How'd i know? thats cause it was my relationship. i was with a guy who basically was no good for me. but my friends wanted me out and i felt that it was not their place to tell me what to do. and boy were they right. the funny thing is the guy would use my best friends as the reason why things went wrong with us. he would say all this nasty stuff to them and i felt like i didn't know what to do. and then i learned something that he let slip. HIS friends were meddling in our relationship. so here was a guy who was telling me that my friends should butt out but it was his friends that he was letting butt in. hypocrisy much.

Lately i been thinking how much do friends meddle in relationships. do we let them meddle because they know us best? or do they meddle just for the sake of it? i guess it depends on the situation and no i am not trying to sugar coat this explanation. if we ask them for their opnion or their advice, we basically are giving them the open door to meddle. however, if they meddle without us asking them yeah they might just want to feel important. now i'm not saying this is how everyone is. i will admit i have done my fair share of meddling but to me its just to make sure my friends are happy and alright.

I think that maybe we should step back from meddling and look at our lives. a wise man told me that people who speak and meddle in other people's problems are just afraid to face their own problems. is he right? what do you all think?

Size Zero...No Thank You

so it seems that being a size zero is the ultimate package. in order for to be a model, you need to have a certain heigh requirement (5"10 +) and be a size 0. well, that seems a bit drastic isn't. decades ago, the ideal woman should be lean and curvy and skin and bones were not at all attractive. but now, the media is protray the other way around. and the statistics of girls with eating disorders are high. the two most common disorders are anorexia and bulimia. they make girls, especially in the pre-teens and teens age group to be the target in this. children are going through enough with puberty, but knowing that they have to be a certain size is too much, in my opinion.

i am no size 0 and thank goodness for that. i like curves and i remember someone telling me "i like a little meat with my potatoes." well all you girls LISTEN UP, not all men like skin in bones. and the reason for that, they don't want to break you. i think it is much healthier to be a size 4 or maybe 6.

Girls don't ever think you are too fat because trust me you are not. you have to love yourself and how you look. guys will be attracted to you not because you are skinny but because you are confident in you own skin. so forget the diets and needing to look like every model in magazines, because you are different. so walk the walk with who you are and be proud of what you look like. so keep your head up high and never let magazines tell you how to look.

Hypocrisy

Recently I spoke with someone I used to be close with. And as we were going down memory lane, he decided to tell me: "you liked two people at the same time and I didn't like that." Now I had to question something - did he say that because that is what he believed? Or is he saying that because I didn't choose him? (* I think it's option number two, what do you guys think?)

Then I realized he was a hypocrite. Because of two reasons: (1) he liked me and an ex-friend of mine at the same time and slept with her knowing she was sleeping with two other guys the same day. And (2) he was flirting with me and basically telling me to break up with my boyfriend at the time to be with him cause I felt something for him. And that is when I learned that he was being hypocrite. And the reason for his hypocrisy...I didn't choose him. I guess he was being biased. Because in scenario number two, I liked two people yet the difference was back then I chose him but didn't anymore.

Now hypocrisy isn't rare, heck it is very common. Whether it is in television shows or happening right in from of us, we are human and it is normal to be hypocrite. ESPECIALLY if it has something to do with us. I remember long time ago in high school, I knew these two girls. They hated each other but fake to each other's faces. Nancy is what I would say "gets around" and Jessie was not to keen about it. Nancy would tell all the sexual acts she did/performed. So when Jessie got a boyfriend, she did the acts and was okay with them that Nancy did that Jessie thought was gross. Is that hypocrisy to you? Was Jessie believing the acts were no longer gross because she is doing them?

We are humans so we can get hypocritical, it is normal. But we have to realize that we should own up to it not pretend.