The Honest Truth

so i havent written in a long time. this blog will be very personal. the past few months i have been going through so much from relationships to friendships. and each day i have to make decisions not only for myself but the people around me. i have learned that my decisions will affect the people i love. and one of the biggest is my heart. i have given it to the most amazing, patient, loving guy ever. and every day i know i'm hurting him. you see we only have this one issue, and that one issue is make it or break it. we trust each other, love each other, and enjoy each other's company. and i would love nothing more than to be with him. i want to marry him and be with him the rest of my life. but i fear that our time has an expiration date. i have nightmares of watching him get married to someone else. i never want to see that cause i want to be that girl he marries. he stole my heart so i want his last name. i cant decided anymore because i have cried every day the past few months and i don't know where our future leads. but i can say is that i want him happy and have no regrets.

Friends Meddling in Relationships

A few years back i knew this couple where friends basically ruined the relationship. How'd i know? thats cause it was my relationship. i was with a guy who basically was no good for me. but my friends wanted me out and i felt that it was not their place to tell me what to do. and boy were they right. the funny thing is the guy would use my best friends as the reason why things went wrong with us. he would say all this nasty stuff to them and i felt like i didn't know what to do. and then i learned something that he let slip. HIS friends were meddling in our relationship. so here was a guy who was telling me that my friends should butt out but it was his friends that he was letting butt in. hypocrisy much.

Lately i been thinking how much do friends meddle in relationships. do we let them meddle because they know us best? or do they meddle just for the sake of it? i guess it depends on the situation and no i am not trying to sugar coat this explanation. if we ask them for their opnion or their advice, we basically are giving them the open door to meddle. however, if they meddle without us asking them yeah they might just want to feel important. now i'm not saying this is how everyone is. i will admit i have done my fair share of meddling but to me its just to make sure my friends are happy and alright.

I think that maybe we should step back from meddling and look at our lives. a wise man told me that people who speak and meddle in other people's problems are just afraid to face their own problems. is he right? what do you all think?

Size Zero...No Thank You

so it seems that being a size zero is the ultimate package. in order for to be a model, you need to have a certain heigh requirement (5"10 +) and be a size 0. well, that seems a bit drastic isn't. decades ago, the ideal woman should be lean and curvy and skin and bones were not at all attractive. but now, the media is protray the other way around. and the statistics of girls with eating disorders are high. the two most common disorders are anorexia and bulimia. they make girls, especially in the pre-teens and teens age group to be the target in this. children are going through enough with puberty, but knowing that they have to be a certain size is too much, in my opinion.

i am no size 0 and thank goodness for that. i like curves and i remember someone telling me "i like a little meat with my potatoes." well all you girls LISTEN UP, not all men like skin in bones. and the reason for that, they don't want to break you. i think it is much healthier to be a size 4 or maybe 6.

Girls don't ever think you are too fat because trust me you are not. you have to love yourself and how you look. guys will be attracted to you not because you are skinny but because you are confident in you own skin. so forget the diets and needing to look like every model in magazines, because you are different. so walk the walk with who you are and be proud of what you look like. so keep your head up high and never let magazines tell you how to look.

Hypocrisy

Recently I spoke with someone I used to be close with. And as we were going down memory lane, he decided to tell me: "you liked two people at the same time and I didn't like that." Now I had to question something - did he say that because that is what he believed? Or is he saying that because I didn't choose him? (* I think it's option number two, what do you guys think?)

Then I realized he was a hypocrite. Because of two reasons: (1) he liked me and an ex-friend of mine at the same time and slept with her knowing she was sleeping with two other guys the same day. And (2) he was flirting with me and basically telling me to break up with my boyfriend at the time to be with him cause I felt something for him. And that is when I learned that he was being hypocrite. And the reason for his hypocrisy...I didn't choose him. I guess he was being biased. Because in scenario number two, I liked two people yet the difference was back then I chose him but didn't anymore.

Now hypocrisy isn't rare, heck it is very common. Whether it is in television shows or happening right in from of us, we are human and it is normal to be hypocrite. ESPECIALLY if it has something to do with us. I remember long time ago in high school, I knew these two girls. They hated each other but fake to each other's faces. Nancy is what I would say "gets around" and Jessie was not to keen about it. Nancy would tell all the sexual acts she did/performed. So when Jessie got a boyfriend, she did the acts and was okay with them that Nancy did that Jessie thought was gross. Is that hypocrisy to you? Was Jessie believing the acts were no longer gross because she is doing them?

We are humans so we can get hypocritical, it is normal. But we have to realize that we should own up to it not pretend.

Bullying: Are We Getting it From the Media

hi everyone. so one of the biggest concerns nationwide is bullying. lately we been hearing children as young as 12 years old committing suicide because they are getting bullied. that is such a sad yet realistic fate unfortunately.

but here's my question? where do we get it? we have to learn it somewhere. i am not saying that media is truly at fault but is that where we got it? let's take the real housewives franchise. it such an addicting entertainment but we are watching episodes of women attacking each other from what they wear to their finacial lives.

recently in the news, the franchise The Real Housewives of Orange County, an episode of bullying was very evident. All the women decide to attack another woman calling her "fake" and "phony" but i'm sorry who gave them the right to create an intervention and degrade another woman. whatever happened to "woman power"? have they decided to throw that out the women for the sake of 15 minutes of fame? and what are they teaching their children: that it is ok to tell someone that and not realize that there could have been another way of saying it?

i understand that all this fighting is GREAT for tv and ratings. but is it worth for teaching younger generations that it is ok to belittle other people?